Weddings are a celebration of two people that takes place for one night, in most cases. My husband and I wanted to throw an awesome party but we really did not want to spend the average $50k-$60k for one night. We decided the most epic wedding for us would be a destination wedding. We both travel together all the time and it is something that has been our thing since we met….so why not get married with all our close friends someplace on a beach and just have an epic vacation with them?!
All weddings have their issues but destination weddings bring up a whole different kind of problems to tackle. Planning our wedding taught me a lot and helped me grow in ways I did not think were possible. Surprisingly, I learned who my real friends are and who was in my life strictly for titles. Before I go into the details and get real with you I wanted to share a quote that has really stuck with me. If there is anything you get from this post at all I hope it is this quote: Life falls apart but falls together at the same time. Every person that has walked away has been replaced by someone better. Every situation that hasn’t worked out has led me to a greater one.
Now you may be scratching your heads but I did learn who my real friends were and who was in my life for a title (for whatever reason) through the process of planning the most important day of my life to date. I had two people who were part of my life for years…they were part of it enough to be invited to the destination portion of my wedding to the love of my life. They both felt ‘entitled’ to be bridesmaids and one emailed me that since she wasn’t a bridesmaid she was not going to be attending. The other texted me a week before something similar….the week before….AFTER all head counts were sent in and paid for.
What this taught me is that those people were put in my life for a reason. And that reason was to help me grow and open my eyes that not everyone is friends with you for the right reasons and you need to pick and choose the people in your life wisely. I also learned that the people who care about both my now husband and I, they would be there and only positive vibes should be present on this day. I took both of these situations very hard but now I see that life was telling me I needed to get rid of negative baggage in my life.
Weddings challenge you. Through this entire process I have been debating if I was going to publish a post about what my experience was and it hopefully is not like this for everyone. At the end of the day I would not change anything from getting ready with my friends, riding over to the ceremony, and seeing my man at the end of the aisle. That was my favorite moment. At the end of the day, it was a day for our love and it truly was that. Through all the drama and all of hiccups it really reminded me that life is not something that is always perfect. It is perfectly imperfect and I learned so much of life can’t be controlled. Yes, most people know this but actually accepting that and embracing that as reality is a whole different ball game. Just remember, not everyone is going to always like you but when you surround yourself with positive people you are living your best life.